The Postlude: Unveiling Women’s Unspoken Needs After Intimacy.
About women, written by a woman dedicated to men.
“After the night we met, I lay on the bed and smiled lustily, thanking the Universe for you. The way you appeared to me made me feel the magic, and I was happy. I chose then to be vulnerable and open with you. I decided to be aware and assume what you can bring me. Then, the next night, during intercourse, you had a few moments where you elegantly and naturally made gestures that I had only dreamed of until now. At that moment, among the sounds of pleasure, I let you enter entirely me, my body, my energy. I surrendered rather quickly, but I only acted on instinct and emotion. I got home, laid on the bed, and stopped smiling, aware of what I had done. I felt then that I had acted wrongly and thought it for the next few days, you just being gone and your words cold. I felt your coldness and distance, vital in me, body and soul, increasing daily. You awakened my Moon and Lilith and brought me, by your mere presence, face to face with pain and vulnerability. You penetrated all my shields with one smile, warm and foreboding. You are such a beautiful complex with charisma and assumed eccentricity. I would chisel you in places, just enough to see you better; kiss you and lay in your soul the unbridled power of everything that already exists in you; touch your skin and unleash the creative energy. You see, so much you open in me and so much you close. I need to come out of you or in but stop juggling me because you’re juggling yourself, and I’m not feeling well. Come on, throw yourself on the bed; I’ll throw myself with you, in you, towards you, through you, over you, in me. “
The beauty of completion, of the emptiness between a man and a woman, captured in the ultimate need for emotional intimacy – that’s what it’s about above. That intimacy does not refer to “happily ever after” but to the moment after love. Whether you are single or in a relationship, the afterlife needs to be present because there is only an emotional void in its absence.
I learned the term postlude recently and felt the veil lifted from my eyes for the first time. I saw and remembered every moment I needed the epilogue, but it didn’t happen. I remembered how often I didn’t know what was missing but knew something was missing.
Now let me ask you:
- How many times have you felt this way?
- How often have you felt a void you did not know or know what to fill?
- How often have you felt inside the need for something else, a connection beyond reality, whether you are single or in a relationship?
Human connection, assumed through intercourse, needs to be in a continuous cycle of emotional intimacy. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been married for 15 years or you’ve been single for seven years; it’s essential to understand that the basic human need is love, connection, and the emotion of beauty, even if we tend to say otherwise and even if society teaches us not to express our feelings and not even feel it. Regardless of social status, the afterlife after love is essential and must not exist.
The postlude is when the man should be grateful for the woman’s dedication.
Life as we women live is full of emotional gaps, not because we are not beautiful but because we don’t know it. We don’t know how to look at ourselves, love ourselves, or look in the mirror and see our authenticity, that beauty felt in the eyes, from the soul. We are women, and most of us have not been educated to feel the creative essence of what we represent, even if that is our essential state.
For years, I didn’t know what to call that state after sex, that feminine need for fullness, for art, for dedication. When intercourse occurs, the partners’ energy complements each other, forming strong bonds, especially if one of the two people involved in the intercourse is spiritual and in an active search for the personal self. The need for sex is called the afterlife, and it is nothing but the continuation of the elude, with the difference that the elude prepares the partners for sex. The afterlife prepares the partners, especially women, for love, dedication, beauty, and acceptance. It is the stage immediately following sex and ends when the prelude to a new sexual act begins.
The beauty of operating only through the intimacy of our emotions.
Being a woman is beautiful and creative simply because we have the body ready to give birth to another life, but at the same time, it can be exhausting, challenging, and very emotional. The amalgam of feelings that lie like a ring of fire inside us needs to be released and brought out. It’s ordinary and extraordinary to feel and to want connection after sex, touches, hugs, stories and smiles. It’s normal, so please don’t feel bad the next time you need it. Whether you’re single, in a recent or long-term relationship, or especially if you’re married, remember that foreplay is part of your emotional nature. It’s normal to want it as much as you want to have foreplay.
Prelude/Postlude: They are complementary and cannot live apart. Be gentle with yourself, woman or man, because human beauty is seen in the constancy of feelings and the vulnerable way you let yourself be carried away by emotions.
We are human and only function through the intimacy of our emotions.
